Rejection can happen in many forms—be it from a job, a college, peers, or a crush. It’s more than just an external experience; it’s a profound feeling that stems from deeper feelings of fear or panic. These fears can range from anything—fear of failure, not being good enough, even fear of rejection itself. Sometimes, this may lead people to question their self-worth or affect their self-esteem. Rejection may also bring about feelings of criticism, hurt, or frustration, all of which stem from anger. Feelings associated with rejection may be related to Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs, in particular focusing on esteem and belonging. This highlights just how important these needs are to our overall well-being and how the effects of rejection can affect them.
Coping with Rejection
Self-Care
While this could look different from person to person, this could include going for a walk, playing with a pet, meditating, or engaging in a hobby. Engaging in activities that bring peace or joy can help to alleviate the sting of rejection.
Practicing Mindfulness
It is important to focus on the present rather than dwell on the past or worry about the future. While I understand that it is easier said than done, there are many mindfulness techniques out there to help. Some of them include yoga, gratitude journaling, meditation, body scan, or mindful breathing.
Self-Compassion
Acknowledge how you are feeling. Have care and empathy towards yourself like you would for a close friend or family member. Remember that rejection is common and a part of being human.
Conclusion
Understanding rejection as a feeling intertwined with fear allows us to approach it with compassion and insight. Rather than viewing it as a barrier, we can see it as a stepping stone toward greater self-awareness and emotional resilience. We can also view it as a learning experience that can bring you closer to landing that interview or job, or finding the right person in your life.
